The Despair Of A Working Mother

by Susan


I am Susan.... turning 40 this year. I am a working mom. My work environment is boring. Sometimes I don't have any paperwork, so I just sit. Of late, I prefer sleeping, baking or watching TV. I used to be slim, but now I am pear shaped due to child birth and thats how my husband lost interest in me.... While we are both Christians, several times he has flirted.... I feel like a robot wife, robot mother.... I just live for the family not myself..... Life is a vicious cycle....

Hi Susan,

The emotion of despair envelops your current views of life. The “Make Life Meaningful” page in this website presents the despairing views of Angie, a young school girl. The page presents a way out of despair.

Despair is a self destructive emotion, triggered by a lack of a purpose in life. The human mind needs such a purpose. Frankl, a renowned psychiatrist, discovered that a simple purpose in life can help one to withstand despair. He had lived through the horrors of a Nazi concentration camp. He found that prisoners, who lacked a purpose just gave up and died. Those who had a purpose survived the torture and beatings in the camp. Their purposes were simple – such as seeing their loved ones after the war.

Professor Wolfram Schultz discovered that working towards a purpose releases dopamine, a neurotransmitter, in the forebrain, giving a a person focus and energy. It is not the achievement of a purpose, but the work towards it, which releases dopamine. All you need is a simple purpose in life.

Effective mind control is about being happy regardless of any misfortune in life. That can be a worthwhile purpose for you! The mind control tips in this website suggest ways in which you can be rid of your despair and look with wonder and awe at the life around you.

We live with a million blessings. Look at things, which had to work for you to so vividly describe your reasons for despair. The amazing technology of the internet. The incredible mechanisms, which enabled you to transfer your thoughts to the keyboard. The deep intelligence, which uncovered the miserable things in your life, can also reveal to you your countless blessings. Working at discovering them can be a grand purpose, when you have learned to be rid of your despair.

Learn how to relax your body. How to still your negative thoughts. Discover how the stilling of despair fills your life with exciting new interests. When you adopt such a purpose, your life will become meaningful.


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For my peace of mind, I earmarked 20 minutes for meditation on the terrace. With my eyes closed, I sense my hands on the chair and feel the numbness in my feet.

I feel my breath flowing through my nose, my throat, my chest and my stomach. I can hear the chirping of birds, the phut phut of auto rickshaws, the occasional roar of a truck and the insistent hooting of horns.

The wide sky and the treetops come to my attention, when I open my eyes, I see a pale moon over two hundred thousand miles away. I see the nuclear fires, blazing for millions of years in the pale globe of the setting sun. I see a single star millions of miles away in space.

I can see green shoots coming up on a tree, watch the dives and swoops of birds, the great circles of the hawks and flocks of birds flying home for the night.

Diffused light from the sun reflects off a parrot on the tree and enters my eye through a pinhole opening. I sense the bustling mood of the bird, even though it is smaller than a drop of water in my eyes.

All these things are seen and felt by me in a few brief minutes. In the distance, is the head of a man seeming to be no bigger than a pea. Yet, that head too sees and feels such things. Ten million people in this great city see and feel in ten million ways.

My mind wanders to a misty view of postwar London; an exciting glimpse of Disneyland. An awed view of Tiananmen Square. The looming Himalayan ranges. My mind takes me to distant galaxies.

It carries me into the heart of millions of invisible neurons, where electrical charges flash thousands of times a second powering my contemplation. I see the campaigns of Julius Caesar and Alexander. I feel the longings of Jehangir.

Already my mind has taken me to palaces, battlefields and even the stars. If I lost everything, but can just see and feel, in just a few brief minutes, my mind can travel the world, or imagine the cosmos.

While my thoughts wandered far and near, the thought "20 minutes is a long time" also kept floating in. And yet, life has already blessed me with over twenty million waking minutes! I have an infinity of time on my hands. Have I a right to expect more from life?

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thought and the steps are actually actionable as compared to many other self help sites out there.
Joe Glen USA.

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