Losing Motivation and Hope in Life

I am an independent female, 36 years old and single. I always feel depressed and lonely in my life, although I have some friends around. However, since I did not have the chance yet to get married, I feel like a stranger in my society, which is an oriental eastern one.

I have no worries in life, and my work is going well. However, I feel that I have nothing to live for, and there is no meaning for my life. The worst thing is that nothing excites me anymore, and nothing is interesting anymore in my life. I feel alienated from others because I think that Iam too mature and my perspective for life is completely different.

All what I need is to make my life meangingful, interesting and exciting. Also, to find something that I could aim for.

Please help! I am really frustrated and depressed that I don't find pleasure in anything!

Thanks

Pleasure in life wells up naturally, when negative emotions, like despair and dissatisfaction have been stilled. For you, those emotions have become habitual, justifying themselves with powerful intellectual arguments. EFT is a quick and effective way of getting rid of a negative emotion. The second method is to still the emotional attack through self awareness.

The emotion will attack you with several lines of justifying thought patterns. Awareness of the triggering point of each despairing thought will still it in its tracks. An awareness of the physical symptom preceding the line of thought is even more powerful. There won't be many such streams of thought. It will take some practice to still the dozen, or so habitual thought patterns, which trouble you.

In the meantime, you will find pleasure in learning to control your mind this way. When negative emotions have become stilled, you will discover joy in so many things around you. You don't need to work on finding pleasure in life. It will happen naturally, when negative emotions have been stilled.
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by: Anonymous

Many thanks for your comments. I feel that you have captured and idenitifeid the roots of my problem, and seriously speaking, I have never been aware of such habitual thoughts that became a part of my life. Please can you advise what readings/techniques you recommend that I do.

You are on the right track. Self awareness can put you on the path to peace. EFT is quite effective in stilling emotions. Have a look at the technique.
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THE CONTENTS OF THIS WEBSITE

Mind Control Tips

Hidden Emotions

Pattern Recognition Processes Of The Mind

Artificial Intelligence & Robotics

At The Workplace

Once, Decades Ago, I Tripped Over The Divine

It was a sudden flash of light.... Way back in 1989. THIS is how we think! Our thoughts wander the universe, get angry, or smile. From memories, emotions and feelings that could fill vast libraries, THIS was how we focused on just THIS sentence THIS moment. A pattern recognition algorithm explained it! The idea hit me like a spark of light, while testing a Prolog AI disease recognition procedure on a Lotus spreadsheet.  By mere chance, I had reversed the Expert System logic. For each symptom, instead of selecting all the probable diseases, I deleted all the unlikely ones. Reverse logic... Infinitely faster... Far fewer symptoms, instant recognition! Algorithms are merely repetitive procedures. But, this algorithmic code could still an ocean of thoughts to focus on THIS WORD.

When you opened your eyes, your mind identified everything in your room. Identified the books and the shelves from complex patterns of light. Instant pattern recognition could explain so many mental activities. More probable things managed by pattern recognition kept waking me up at 3 a.m. The list kept on adding up in my diary. The dots just kept connecting. Patten recognition could make us weep in anguish or gasp in wonder.  It could distinguish between good and evil. Was THIS the fabled divine gift of wisdom to life?

The 1500 pages of Gray's Anatomy listed the functions of virtually every mental organ. Pattern recognition could link them all into a single mind that could suture an artery, while recalling a tennis match. Starting at the input level, it focused your senses. Millions of receptors flashed a magnificent perception of the world to the sensory regions of our cortex. In association regions, the algorithm identified every thing in your room. In just 20 ms. other regions could tell you that the door bell sounded happy. Object and event recognition.

The limbic system could identify good happenings from bad ones. It generated emotions. This mammalian region could drive us to attack in anger, or flee in terror. It held us in thrall. Emotions caused the motor systems to trigger actions. Hunger made us raid the frig. We went to work daily to avoid the pain of guilt. Love reminded us to pick up children from school. Hatred built the death camps. In the end, urges from the limbic system drove us out of Eden.  Sadly, we lacked the capacity to be consciously aware of our emotions and feelings. They were invisible to us.

As a precious compensation, pattern recognition ascended higher. Our prefrontal regions gifted us science and logic. Those skills enabled us to understand the vast structures of the cosmos. We could sail the oceans, fly the skies and explore the heavens. Even more, the algorithm also pointed to the divine, which defied logic and definition. We sensed the order and beauty, which, like the laws of nature, existed from the beginning of time.

Pattern recognition dealt with subtleties. Great symphonies and works of art.  Nerve cells valued such patterns without our awareness and fired to initiate the skin tingling thrill.  Who, but the Designer, could possibly want to hard wire us to thrill to the astonishing splendor of the design?

Over three decades have passed since my first glimpse of the vast and invisible city of the mind. THIS city has many avenues linking its great palaces and temples. Those divine pattern recognition paths also lead to still spaces, untrammelled by the ravages of emotions and feelings.... Stillness makes worth living! The great sages of the past advised the stilling of passions to empower the sublime within us. The divine stillness lives at the core. You too can live there. Even make it your home.

The information provided in this website is useful for the modification of normal behavioral patterns. Please do get professional help, before applying the advice for the treatment of any abnormal behaviors. Copyright ©2008 by Ebbi Thomas. All rights reserved. This material may be freely published, reproduced, broadcast, rewritten, or redistributed.