Dealing With Severe Guilt

Ann surely needs help in dealing with severe guilt. A few years back, she swung out on to the outer lane to overtake a slow moving van and collided head on with an oncoming truck. Her husband was killed on the spot and her son was paralyzed waist down. Years later, her sense of guilt continues to blame her cruelly over her fatal error of judgment. A feeble and pained voice within her keeps rejoining with the truth - that it was just a momentary mistake, which could have happened to anyone.

It was just one thoughtless, but awful mistake. Each time Ann opens her front door and feels the emptiness, each time she glimpses her child on the wheelchair, the painful voice returns, hurting her with its relentless logic. Her stern guilt and despair poison her career and the upbringing of her son, transforming her life into a living nightmare. In dealing with severe guilt, Ann needs to get her shattered life back to even keel. She needs to realize that she can learn to control the evolutionary neural mechanisms, which torture her. She can calmly come to terms with her guilt, which is merely a social emotion, triggered by her nervous system, to control her behavior.

• Science suggests that guilt causes intangible pain.
• Your common sense is your immensely wise conscience. Its judgment triggers your guilt emotion and your pain.
• Self awareness can kill an emotion.
• The mind control tips in this website can still the emotions which trouble you.
• Guilt also serves a social purpose. Listen to your conscience.
• Mirror neurons trigger compassion and, often, needless guilt.
• This self improvement plan can deal with such troubling issues in your life.
• Avoid guilt about your bad habits by taking control of your mind.

Can An Algorithm Be Controlling The Mind?
I am not a physician, but an engineer. Way back in 1989, I catalogued how the ELIMINATION approach of an AI Expert System could reveal a new data storage/processing view of the nervous system. That insight is central to the six unique new premises presented in this website. 

These new premises could explain an enigma.  A physician is aware of thousands of diseases and their related symptoms.  How does he note a symptom and focus on a single disease in less than half a second?  How could he identify Disease X out of 8000 diseases with just a glance?  

First, the total born and learned knowledge available to the doctor could only be existing as the stored/retrieved data within the 100 billion neurons in his brain.  The perceptions, sensations, feelings and physical activities of the doctor could only be enabled by the electrical impulses flowing through the axons of those neurons.  The data enabling that process could be stored as digital combinations.

Second, an axon hillock decides the axonal output of each neuron.  The hillock receives hundreds of inputs from other neurons.  Each hillock makes the pivotal neuronal decision about received inputs within 5 milliseconds.  Axon hillocks could be storing digital combinations.  It could be adding each new incoming digital combination to its memory store.  The hillock could fire impulses, if it matched a stored combination. If not, it could inhibit further impulses.  Using stored digital data to make decisions about incoming messages could make the axon hillocks intelligent.

Third, combinations could enable a powerful coding mode for axon hillocks.  Olfactory combinatorial data is known (Nobel Prize 2004) to store memories for millions of smells.  Each one of 100 billion axon hillocks have around a 1000 links  to other neurons.  The hillocks can mathematically store more combinations than there are stars in the sky. Each new digital combination could be adding a new relationship link.  In this infinite store, specific axon hillocks could be storing all the symptom = disease (S=D) links known to the doctor as digital combinations.

Fourth, instant communication is possible in the nervous system.  Within five steps, information in one hillock can reach all other relevant neurons.  Just 20 Ms for global awareness.  Within the instant the doctor observes a symptom, feedback and feed forward links could inform every S=D link of the presence of the symptom. Only the S=D link of Disease X could be recalling the combination and recognizing the symptom.

Fifth, on not recognizing the symptom, all other S=D hillocks could be instantly inhibiting their impulses. The S=D links of Disease X could be continuing to fire. Those firing S=D link would be recalling past complaints, treatments and signs of Disease X, confirming the diagnosis.  This could be enabling axon hillocks to identify Disease X out of 8000 in milliseconds.

Worldwide interest in this website is acknowledging its rationale. Not metaphysical theories, but processing of digital memories in axon hillocks could be explaining innumerable mysteries of the mind.  Over three decades, this website has been assembling more and more evidence of the manipulation of emotional and physical behaviors by narrowly focused digital pattern recognition.  It has also been receiving over 2 million page views from over 150 countries.

Dealing With Severe Guilt
Do Emotions Control Behavior?
As Ann's nervous system evolved over millions of years, nature developed increasingly complex control patterns to enable survival. The early reptilian brains responded to smells, or to fear and anger. Smells decided whether an object could be approached or avoided. Fear and anger decided whether the animal should retreat, or attack. Those control decisions supported individual survival. Further evolution led to the mammalian brain, where social emotions controlled herd behavior. Guilt and shame  punished any selfish behavior, which broke the moral code of the group. The emotions triggered drives, which opposed unsocial actions and compelled members to act for group benefit. Pain, at the prospect of social rejection, became wired into the system.

Dealing With Severe Guilt 
What Happens When You Feel Guilty?
Eisenberger's research at UCLA confirms activity in the neural pain circuits, when a person suffers social rejection. A person suffers pain, when damaged skin cells cause nociceptors (pain nerve cells) to fire. Such pain processing is reported to have two parallel channels. The first causes the sensation of pain and the second, a feeling of being “hurt.” The “hurt” experience is more disagreeable than the pain sensation. Fear compels an animal to escape from, or to avoid a source of pain.

To enable animals to remember and avoid pain, “speed dial circuits,” persist over the years in the amygdala, the organ associated with fear. Those circuits trigger distress, when they recognize any pattern remotely linked to original source of pain. Eisenberger suggests that the same circuits are activated in the case of guilt. Ann cannot run away from her misjudgment. So, the drive triggers internal voice circuits, accusing her of her guilt, on recognition of any associated pattern. When dealing with severe guilt, Ann needs to understand the reality that pattern recognition and speed dial circuits are also the reasons for her punishment.

Dealing With Severe Guilt
Can You Soften The Pain of Guilt?
Evolutionary development led to the common sense regions of the prefrontal human brain. Scientists are surprised that a bunch of nerve cells can have a conscience. But, they acknowledge the vast extent of knowledge in the DNA molecule in each living cell in the human body. If inscribed into 500 page books, the programmed DNA codes in the human body will fill the Grand Canyon 50 times over with those books! Nerve cells contain similar masses of code in their combinatorial codes.

The prefrontal brain contains the accumulated wisdom of millions of years and the memories of a lifetime of sensory and emotional experiences. That brain has the wisdom to know what is right and wrong in the vast turmoil of human relations and social responsibilities. When her common sense tells her that she made a wrong decision, which caused grievous harm, Her common sense is right. That judgment of her common sense triggers her overactive guilt and pain circuits. But, her common sense will also tell her that that mistake could have been made by anyone. That she should accept her error and move on. In dealing with deep grief, Ann should understand that the speed dial circuits always enhance her pain and still the small inner voice of her common sense.

Dealing With Severe Guilt
How Does Self Awareness Help?
Ann can never hope to argue with her feeling of guilt and win. In reality, her actions were wrong. But, she can switch off her guilt circuit. She can use a foible of the nervous system - when the attention of the mind is directed to the onset of an emotion, the emotion is instantly stilled. The attention of the mind is the attention of her prefrontal regions.

Normally, when an emotion takes over, her prefrontal region is only an observer, who feels the pain. But if you consciously begin to observe your mind, Your common sense  will take over. It will be able to see the onset of thoughts triggered by lower level animal emotions from the mammalian part of the triune human brain. Your common sense will become able to identify the sharp accusing voices of guilt and still them through mere observation. It is similar to the age old advice to count upto ten, before you speak harshly. Shift the attention of your mind and anger will disappear. Ann should know that self awareness will not come overnight. In dealing with severe grief, it will require observation over a period of time for her to become familiar with her troubling thoughts, just the way she knows her annoying acquaintances.

Dealing With Severe Guilt
How Do You Put Common Sense In Charge?
The Buddhists discovered the path of self awareness and mindfulness meditation, which grants control of your mind to your common sense. It is a powerful investigative intelligence, which “sees the flower as being neither beautiful nor ugly.” To an unemotional common sense, it is just a flower. The mind control tips in this website suggest a few mental and physical exercises to put your common sense in charge. Those exercises can still your animal instincts, with their speed dial circuits, which respond to every hint and shake you around like a puppet on a string.

In time, the practice of those routines will transport your mind to a calm neutral territory. In successfully dealing with severe guilt, these practices can enable Ann to live sensibly with her disastrous mistake. With its immense inherent wisdom, her common sense knows it was a mistake. It also knows of the fallibility of humans and of the need to move on beyond disaster. Ann will view of the problems ahead and the mistakes of the past to be “like birds in the sky.” They are there, but do not matter.

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What Is Self Compassion?
The love emotion activates the affiliation network, which can still the pain of guilt. Self compassion training grants sufficient control of the mind to enable a practitioner to consciously switch on the network. The initiation creates a powerfully positive attitude. A loving acceptance of the pain of the self takes place. The guilty person will feel compassion for the poor suffering self, which will act to reduce the pain of guilt.

Dealing With Severe Guilt
How Does Guilt Help?
A stable social life requires ways to deal with conflicts and events in which people inadvertently (or even purposefully) harm others. If a person harms someone, guilt causes him to express regret and sorrow and is likely to be forgiven. In this way the chances of retaliation are reduced and the community fares better. A person, who feels no guilt is likely to harm others and be destroyed, in the end, by society. At one time or another everyone makes a mistake, commits an error of judgment, or says or does something wrong.

Self awareness can make each person listen to the voice of conscience. Remember that it is an immensely wise intelligence, which triggers your feeling of guilt. Act to remedy the situation. Apologize to the person and express your sorrow at your error. Avoid repeating the behavior. Each such incident will improve your sensitiveness to people and prevent serious deterioration of your personal relationships. You may not be dealing with severe guilt. But you can use guilt as your wise guide and counselor to grow, learn and mature.

Dealing With Severe Guilt
Why Is Empathy A Problem For Guilt?
Our minds contain a neural subsystem, which senses the feelings of others and makes us feel the same emotions. These neurons are called mirror neurons. This system makes us feel the sufferings of others and triggers the compassion emotion. The emotion triggers a drive to make us act to mitigate the suffering. When we are unable to help, feelings of guilt are triggered.

People, who are sensitive to these feelings are likely to be cooperative and to be altruistic. But, they also are more likely to suffer from anxiety and depression. Such suffering is intensified by the conviction of their common sense, that it is their duty to help. Peace of mind can come only when RI systematically evaluates all options and makes a competent value judgment for the circumstances around each such periodic pang of guilt, which overtakes them. Each person has to make a choice about the extent of altruistic behavior that can be afforded in the turmoil of every day life.

Dealing With Severe Guilt
What Are The More Subtle Forms Of Guilt?
The self improvement plan in this website offers a method ofhandling the subtle emotions, which may trouble you. Once you practice self awareness, you will slowly become aware of discomfort over some event during the day. To follow this plan, you can write down all your thoughts about this issue the way you would write a shopping list. Your mind has the capacity to search through its vast memories to bring you all the thoughts around this concern. The plan offers a way to organize these thoughts and enable your common sense to understand your concern.

• You may not have the time or resources to improve a situation.
• You may have chosen a career instead of staying at home.
• You may not be as good as some one else in dealing with the problem.
• You may not achieve the perfection in work, which you expect of yourself.
• You may have felt anger towards someone you care for.
• Circumstances may have forced you to accept help.
• Changing your behavior may cause you too much distress.
• You may not be able to change a mistake in the past.
• You may have acted wrongly with the only information available to you.
• The problem could have occurred regardless of all your efforts.

Writing it down will bring out the many conflicting views within your mind. The plan enables you to make your choices. Knowing the rationale of your choice will prevent this sense of guilt from coming up again. You will not feel trapped. Your common sense will have understood and made its choices. Your behavior will slowly be modified to meet your decision. When dealing with severe guilt, it is also important to tone down such feelings, which may run in your subconscious.

Dealing With Severe Guilt 
Is There A Way To Stop Your Bad Habits?
Your common sense knows whether you smoke, or eat too much. It knows that regular exercise is good for you. You feel guilt, when you act against the judgment of your common sense. You may have always intended to break your bad habit, or to begin good ones. Yet, when you get down to it, you lack the will power. Actually, you fail in this conflict between your common sense and your animal instincts, because emotions control your life. Your nervous system always switches control to your most powerful emotion. When hunger pangs, a need for a smoke, or sheer tiredness overcomes you, you will give in to one of these habitual weaknesses.

But, self awareness can still an emotion. If you become conscious of the emotion, it will be stilled. Do not argue with an emotion. When you are about to indulge yourself, think “what do I feel?” instead of thinking “I should not do this.” Recognition of the physical symptoms of the emotion, which misdirects you, will kill the emotion. Your guilt is continually warning you. Use self awareness to take control of your life. These practices will always assist you, even as you work on dealing with severe guilt.

This page was last updated on 31-Dec-2013.